So I have heard guys say that if they have sex with a woman then she gets emotionally attached and will not allow it to be a casual experience. I really have to say that I think there are definitely times you can apply that saying to the opposite sex. I mean with any saying about a type of person, sex or race, can be applied to the opposite. But the idea that once sex is had it ruins a friendship or they will want a relationship out of it. I guess I have to explain where I’m coming from.
I happen to be out with one of my girlfriends and this random guy comes up to me to talk about my tattoos. Which on a side note, I have noticed guys use that as a pick up line. So he was/is a good looking guy, well to me at least even though my friend though he was creepy. Through the conversation I found out he was in town working for a while. I happened across him that next week and decided to give him my number. So I was kinda excited about the idea of a hot tattooed biker guy calling me, but I have been single for long enough too never expect anything nor hold my breath for a good outcome. Well ended up talking to him and meeting for drinks on a Friday. Well I went for a good time with a friend, not necessarily thinking that good time would go home with me. It did and it was great, but I knew there were other strings he had attached to him that were not quite clipped yet (like a wife that was suppose to be a soon to be ex). So I took it as a good time for all involved and that I still had a friend.
So a few days later I try to call to see if he wanted to go out sometime and no answer. I didn’t give it a second thought because I am not one of those girls who fall into that stereotype of sex equaling emotions. So last night, which would be the following Friday, I tried to call again just to say that my friends and I were going to be at a bar that he goes to a lot. Figuring I would be friendly and see if he wanted to join us. Well no answer and I start to think that he is thinking that I’m some “typical” woman and now all I want is him. I’m sorry but no man I have ever met is that good. HA So I go with my friends and what does the dog drag in, him. Oh did I mention that he was with his wife, or soon to be ex. Wow did I feel weird. So he was telling me to keep everything quiet. Of course I did cause he is my friend and I will be damned if I cause drama.
Well the reason we were at the bar was to sing karaoke and we had a huge group of friends there. So all the girls in the group are up singing a song and the wifey decides to just join our group. And to top it off she comes over to my mic and throws her arms around me and sings with me. Damn she was drunk! And not the best singer, but I was nice and smiled and sang with her. Some of the girls in the group were not happy that she barged her way up there. I just ignored it. Well I guess she ended up all sick outside throwing up, so I went over to talk to him for a minute. I said it was nice to meet her but that I thought they were getting a divorce. He said they were and I have to take him for his word. I don’t get guys sometimes. I know I’m stupid for just taking his word, but I’m not looking for a relationship with him just a friendship. If we happened to have a better time than normal once in awhile that would be ok until I get a boyfriend. HA
That was so wrong of me to say, but I guess it would be the truth. I also would like to address the concept of “fuckable but not dateable”. What the hell is that?!?!?!?!?!? There was a guy friend of mine lately that told me that the reason he hadn’t returned my phone calls was because he had gotten a girlfriend. My response was simply, why the hell not I don’t feel that that should make a difference in our friendship. He agreed and apologized. So I tell a friend and she says “Well you know what he’s saying don’t you? He’s saying that you’re fuckable but not girlfriend material.” And I understand that this wasn’t her point of view, but damn it has stuck with me. So how can you say a girl is fuckable, you cant resist her, but that you couldn’t have her as a girlfriend. Ok so there are certain times that I understand that concept and I am not including drunken moments. But, and I am well aware of the fact most of you don’t know me and have to take my word for it, I’m not one of those girls. I am a very caring and loyal person/friend. I wonder if it is my appearance. I have long black hair, big boobs, tattoos and like to dress in things the fit instead of baggy. I mean I’m not the skinniest thing so emphasizing the breast is a good thing. HA
If you look at the guys that are in my life on a regular basis now….well there’s not much there. There is a great friend who I couldn’t live without, but don’t see anything more there since he does have a person. A good-looking bad boy, who I think I should just avoid but not sure I want to. Another cutie boy, who toys with my emotions and doesn’t want a girlfriend right now due to health issues. A lot of other random guys that are great friends but most are in relationships. Damn the luck! The concepts boys think up are ridiculous sometimes and make the world of dating even harder. I understand and can agree with a guy when they say women are bitches, even though I am a woman, because we truly can be. But fellas, seriously, you are more confusing than women. It makes it so hard to be a great fun outgoing and sometimes crazy in a good way, yet caring and loving woman. Rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
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